Dear PoorBoy

[fishon1219]

Dear PoorBoy,

I've never written to you before, but I really need your advice on what could be a crucial decision. I've suspected for some time now that my wife has been cheating on me.

The usual signs... phone rings but if I answer, the caller hangs up. My wife has been going out with the girls a lot recently although when I ask their names she always says, "Just some friends from work, you don't know them."

I always stay awake to look out for her taxi coming home, but she always walks down the drive. Although I can hear a car driving off, as if she has gotten out of the car round the corner. Why? Maybe she wasn't in a taxi? I once picked her cell phone up just to see what time it was and she went berserk and screamed that I should never touch her phone again and why was I checking up on her.

PoorBoy, I have never approached the subject with my wife. I think deep down I just didn't want to know the truth, but last night she went out again and I decided to really check on her.

I decided I was going to park my boat next to the garage and then hide behind it so I could get a good view of the whole street when she came home. It was at that moment, crouching behind my boat, that I noticed that the prop shaft on my Yamaha seemed to be leaking a little oil.

Is this something I can fix myself or should I take it back to the dealer?

Thanks,
Fishon

[McCarter]

Oh man, Kev.  This isnt good.  I mean its something that you know can happen once you have made that commitment.  But we tend to think it wont happen to us.  But all too often, it does.  I would have to guess that monthes of neglect has led you to this most unfortunate situation.  You see, they need to feel loved.  You have to spoil them and show them a lot of attention.  Even if you just got off the water and you are exhausted.  You have to take the time to show you care and let her know you appreciate the things she does for you. 

Here are a few tips so this doesnt happen again:

Take an hour, once to twice a week, and clean her up.  Knock the dust off her and get your knuckles dirty.  This shows that you are commited and in for the long haul.

Instead of hitting the couch and watching cartoons, pull the line from her prop.  Or rinse out her cooler.  this shows that you can do small things for her, even when you dont want to.

Once in a while, your gonna have to tighten down a few problem areas.  As they age, things tend to get loose and soft.  She knows she isnt 9 monthes old anymore, and its starting to show.  This can really take a toll on her self esteem.  Once in a while, you have to remind her how beautiful she still is.  This will show her that you love her no matter how she looks.

Check her tires, make sure they are properly inflated.  She may be a little self concious at first, wondering why you need the tires to be rounder and more firm, but once they are full she will feel like shes the center of attention again, just like she did when you first hooked her to your hitch for the first time.

And for god sakes man, take her out.  Nothing can make her feel better than getting her away from the house and getting her wet for a couple hours.  Take her fast or take her slow, as long as you take her.

Now its sounds like you may have caught the problem just in time.  It looks like you may be able to turn this one around on your own.  Just remember, if you let anything go unattended for too long, someone else is gonna step in where you left off.  There are plenty of guys out there who are just itching to jump on a 'rebound' boat.  And they know all the tricks.

Hope this helps.

Oh, and good luck with the wife.

PB himself

[dartag]

sad to see this happen to such a great guy.  i don't have the nerve to tell Lola.  of course she is a Ranger Mercruy girl .   maybe we could form a support group to help you out.  we would have to find a neutral meeting place.  say HOOTERS.  the help there are such good listeners. 

ss

[joshimoto son]

I can't quit crying!!!

Somebody hug me!!!

Fishon...

You're very lucky!

I had the love of my life out on the lake a few years back... I started her up and took off across the lake. Then all of a sudden she just blew up on me.... I thought I lost her forever!

It took the work of a liscensed Mercury Proffesional to get us back together.

It was the worst week of my life...

Good luck man... and God's speed.

joshimoto son

[dartag]

any chance the wife is dating a Yamaha mechanic??.  naw,  that would be too easy.

[Skip Johnson]

Sorry to hear about your trouble Kevin, I would definitley give her as much TLC as you can afford, if you dont and you just put a bandaid on it she may just leave you when you least expect it!

The emotional devestation you would feel could take a lifetime to forget I know becouse I have been there, It realy hurts just watching other couples just drive by looking all happy and dont seem to notice or just plain dont care about the distress you are in.

The important thing to know is if you dont spend the time and money now to fix the problem it could cost you ten times more to replace her not to mention all the lonely days on the couch wishing the two of you could just be together again.

Oh and now that fishin seasons over try to spend some quality time with the wife also.